I am thoroughly convinced that living selfishly is a form of self destruction. I know that we are often a self destructive people too blinded by our own debris to see ourselves or anyone else.That is why we stumble into one another with our eyes closed, hoping to cling onto another being, praying that their line of vision is clear enough to affirm our brokenness into something whole. But, If we are both selfish, this cannot be, and if for some reason it is possible, this affirmation we seek, it is not real. But, then there’s love, right? Our only hope. Not the love that comes dressed in hidden motives, the love that speaks of love as if it were actually. Actual love inspires true selflessness, but selflessness is a practice, for it does not come natural to anyone. If we could be brave enough to open our eyes, to stare at our horrid reflections, we would willingly yield to the radiance of love without question. Love is the only thing that saves, of that I am thoroughly convinced.
Beautiful woman from the Mucubal people: South Angola
Photo by: Johan Gerrits
Little use in giving your heart to a man.
He’s been told from day one that his own is detrimental and counteractive to his masculinity, therefore his existence.
His own is shattered and abused, first by society, then by his own hands, what could he possibly make of yours?
Joy Lola,1, Uk
Photographer : itswycliffe.tumble.com
Who will love our daughters?
Who will love our daughters when abuse is the norm? Who will love our daughters from this generation of young men who are being raised by a form of music that promotes sexual and physical violence towards women as acceptable making the violation silent and invisible? And what of our daughters whose acceptance of these disturbing, hateful lyrics is because they simply didn’t notice them or they don’t matter ‘cause the beat is so tight? So…to my women, when will we stop singing the songs, buying the tickets and cheering in the stands? When will we make the connection that through our acceptance, our financial support we are reinforcing a mentality that makes it okay to gang rape a girl and proudly pass pictures around of the incident or even lead to committing brutal crimes like the one we are witnessing in Cleveland. When will we love ourselves, our daughters and our sons enough to say…NO MORE?
A woman can be intelligent and strong and aware and still suffer in this way because there’s this girl inside of her who was wounded and needs protection, and if the world that she lives in does not appear to be capable or willing to provide that protection, then she will provide it for herself, which can ultimately come to compromise the woman’s sweetness, her gentleness.